Attaining taqwah and love for Allah supersedes all and getting to Jannah is our only objective. Coming to realize this is a beauty in itself, we feel free from societal strains and connected to the peace of being Muslim. There is a serenity in our hearts when we know that we are doing our best to please the one that created us but this isn’t easy. Trying to stay on the right path is not an easy task and during this time of fitnah, it is only getting harder. As people begin to enter our lives, others begin to leave. Some are people who we know we didn’t need in our life and others are people we think we need in our lives.
When we come closer to the straight path, everything seems amazing and for the first time ever, everything seems to be illuminated. We have come from darkness into light but then we notice our friends on Facebook and Followers on twitter dwindling, we notice the people we thought the most of avoiding us and others completely ignoring us. This message is for you.
First and foremost, make sure that it is not you. Sometimes when we get this huge dose of light, we can get a little deen crazy, we start to sentence people to hell, shoot bidaa bullets, and become the ultimate haram police. So before thinking that all of these people coming out of your realm of friends is due to their weak faith, look in the mirror. We can be the cause of it. If you are posting fatwahs on facebook about socks or eating dragons and commenting to tell people they will receive the wrath of Allah, of course you were unfriended. If you are tweeting about how everyone who steps into the masjid with their left foot is against the Sunnah, who ever writes the abbreviation (sws) is doomed to hell or informing people about the sins of brushing their teeth with an “American” toothbrush, don’t be surprised if you are un-followed. No one wants to be told that they are going to hell for things that are not even fully agreed upon or be condemned although they are praying their five prayers. Here is some advice, if someone is praying their five prayers, leave them alone, everything else will fall in place inshallah especially if they are not your friend. Quite frankly, no one wants to be your friend. Islam is not about the extremes, it is a religion of true balance. And at the end of the day to all of these detailed questions that are not gates to jannah or jahanem, ALLAH-HU-ALAM. Why is it becoming so hard to say Allah-hu-alam?
Don’t we know that Allah is Al-Hakim and Al-Alim, Allah is wise and knows all things.
After looking at ourselves honestly, take the advice from the Quran, don’t despair. I have seen people who have tried to hang on to a single strand of their friendships with their old friends when their “friends” are slowly trying to let it go. Face it, when you make this change, people will leave you. People come and go out of our lives for a reason, some will help us and some will yield us. When deciding to live to please Allah only, the people who helped you get to that point will remain and those who yielded you, will leave. There are many reasons for the change, and if you are honest with yourself and you know that it is not you, its them. Let’s be honest with each other, no one wants to be reminded that what they are doing is wrong. Back then, people want to kill the Prophet (sws) because what he preached, if you think everyone is going to love you, you have the wrong idea. People will come and go in our lives and sometimes we have to let go. This is not to say to reject them,but if someone does not want to be your friend, lets them make that decision and continue to be cordial with them. Sometimes you see that when people decide not to be our friends, we become bitter and will even come to the point to reject their salams! Don’t despair and Don’t get angry, this is the will of Allah, Alhamdulilah, things happen for a reason.
Acceptance is key. We need to accept the fact that although we have been given the gift of Islam and have experienced the perfect light of Allah, everything is not perfect and people are not perfect. Although we have been given the words to change the world, the world does not always want to listen and not every human being will accept this light or those giving it. So when people come and go throughout our lives, lets rejoice on the fact that we are Muslim.